By Safe Call Now® President & Founder - Sean Riley |
A dear friend of mine always says and he’s right, “We treat
our cars better than we treat our first responders in addiction who are going
to die”. When the red light comes on in
our vehicles we immediately take the vehicle into the mechanic and have it
assessed, evaluated and fixed. When
we’re dealing with the alcoholic or addicted first responder, the red lights
come on and as a profession we will enable them to protect our partners (blind
loyalty), try to fix the problems ourselves (which only a professional can do)
or cast them aside and throw them away as if it is someone else’s problem (the
easy way out).
The diseases of addiction
and mental health when combined are two of the deadliest diseases known to
mankind, yet they are the only two diseases that we allow the first responder
who’s brain is incapable of making logical decisions dictate the terms of
treatment. Maybe for fear of not
offending them, ending their career, who knows there are many other reasons
usually associated with “The Thin Blue, Red, Green Line”. Ultimately I have determined that the main
cause is that “It’s always been done this way in the past”. This is why Safe Call Now® exists, an
organization that is willing to change the culture and thinking of an entire
profession that experiences these diseases at twice the rate of the general
population according to some studies and some say even higher. Who knows?
I just know first responders are dying from it.
I want to speak with all of you about the alcoholic and
addict mind and what the first responder may be thinking and doing when they
are in this situation. I am familiar
with this because I was “That guy”. The
guy who would lie to your face, smile, tell you everything is alright, convince
you that everyone else is crazy, function within the work environment, control
the situations, create drama within others to direct the attention away from me
and convince you that I was right.
Fortunately or unfortunately I do not think like you.
Alcoholics and addicts usually have above average
intelligence (I would like to think so) and are very creative because we’ve had
to be to get what we want and manipulate situations to obtain our main
objective… to get the alcohol or drugs at any costs. I remember when my supervisors were impressed
with my ability to “Think outside the box” to solve complex cases. The reason for this is I felt I had to
perform at such a high level that it would divert attention away from me and my
drug use. On the outside I was “That
guy” people were coming to for advice on creative ways to solve cases which fed
my ego all the while I was falling apart on the inside and in my private
life. It’s kind of ironic that my
thinking was so delusional in nature, my brain was hijacked by the disease of
addiction and there was no logic to my decision making and I was able to
convince others that I was this brilliant “Guy” (or at least I thought
so). Yet somehow I was able to make it
work for over 23 years and as I progressed through my disease I really felt I
was superior to others. I’m not proud of any of this and it is
actually very embarrassing when I look back upon it all.